Declining Marriage Rates in Indonesia

Marriage rates in Indonesia have declined over the past decade. In 2014, 2.1 million Indonesians married, a number that fell to 1.47 million in 2024. Data from the Central Statistics Agency indicates that less than 30 percent of Indonesians aged 16 to 30 were married as of December.

Marriage rates in Indonesia have declined over the past decade, with significant drops observed in the last ten years.

Factors Contributing to the Decline

Sociologists, such as Desintha Dwi Asriani from Gadjah Mada University, suggest that marriage is no longer solely about weddings and children. Key considerations now include housing, child-rearing costs, and daily expenses, which necessitate substantial economic resources. Despite these growing financial demands, marriage remains culturally and religiously encouraged in Indonesia, viewed as a marker of maturity and moral standing.

Challenges in Partner Search

Online dating has presented challenges for young Indonesians. Talitha Rarasty, a 36-year-old makeup artist, experienced repeated encounters with married or already-involved men on dating apps, leading her to quit the platforms.

Relationship coach Rastrianez noted that negative online experiences have led to fear and doubt among young people, contributing to a social media trend where the phrase "marriage is scary" gained traction on platforms like TikTok. Concerns include infidelity, neglect of children, or incompatibility with a partner, including religious differences. The abundance of options on dating apps also contributes to overthinking and difficulty in making choices.

"Negative online experiences have led to fear and doubt among young people, contributing to a social media trend where the phrase 'marriage is scary' gained traction on platforms like TikTok."

Alternative Matchmaking Approaches

In response to these challenges, some young Indonesians are exploring alternatives to dating apps. Cindo Match, a matchmaking service, displays AI-generated images and CVs of single individuals in shopping centers and at events. Customers can view real images and contact details for a fee.

Co-founder Angeline Chandra reported success with face-to-face matchmaking events, with at least 40 couples dating and two marriages resulting from their services. Her clients, primarily millennials, expressed a preference for offline interactions due to concerns about scams on dating apps and time constraints from work.

Government Initiatives

The Indonesian Ministry of Religion has initiated programs to fund mass weddings for couples who face economic barriers. In December, approximately 50 couples participated in a mass wedding at Istiqlal Mosque, receiving dowries, food packages, gifts, and photo sessions.

Similar events in June and September saw around 200 couples marry, with participants receiving hotel stays and financial support for starting businesses. Sociologist Dr. Asriani suggests that beyond financial aid, the government should consider broader strategies to enhance the appeal of marriage, acknowledging a shift in societal views.

Beyond financial aid, the government should consider broader strategies to enhance the appeal of marriage, acknowledging a shift in societal views.

Personal Perspectives

Talitha Rarasty, while still desiring marriage, has accepted her current single status, stating she has made peace with the situation and plans to enjoy her life.