A significant shift is occurring in first date preferences among single Australian Gen Zers, with nearly one-third (31%) now preferring sober first dates, according to data from dating app Hinge. The app's dating coach and behavioral scientist, Logan Ury, attributes this trend to Gen Z's increased focus on mental health and authenticity.
Reasons for the Shift
Hinge's 2025 Gen Z D.A.T.E Report found that 67% of young Australians want to develop romantic connections without relying on alcohol this year. Ury suggests that the COVID-19 pandemic also contributed, as lockdowns encouraged daters to explore creative, alcohol-free date ideas, revealing that strong connections do not require alcohol.
Individuals who have engaged in sober dates report experiencing relaxed and confident energy without alcohol. Some methods they use to achieve this include listening to pump-up playlists, calling a friend, practicing breathwork, or mentally reaffirming their positive qualities.
Personal Experiences and Expert Advice
Lucy Holz, an Australian individual who is sober, previously found it challenging to navigate a dating scene heavily focused on alcohol. She expressed surprise at the high number of Gen Z individuals opting for sober dates in 2026, stating that this knowledge would have reduced her stress and allowed her to share her sobriety more openly.
Ury advises singles to resist pressure to conform to alcohol-inclusive first dates. She states that opting for sober dates can promote clarity, intentionality, and emotional intimacy, and allows individuals to show up as their authentic selves by removing the pressure to perform or mask nerves. She also notes that sober dating facilitates better observation of subtle compatibility signals.
Data from Hinge indicates that Millennials were 50% more likely than Gen Z to consume alcohol on a date even when they preferred not to. Ury recommends clear communication when suggesting an alcohol-free date, such as 'Iām doing alcohol-free dates lately, want to grab a coffee or go for a walk instead?'
Alternative Sober Date Ideas
Beyond coffee, breakfast, or lunch dates at cafes, Ury suggests several other sober first date options:
- Attending a comedy show: Laughter can reduce stress and release oxytocin, a bonding hormone.
- Going to a play or concert: Provides a shared focus and conversation topics before and after.
- Planning a picnic: Each person can bring favorite items.
- Engaging in an art activity: Sketching at a park or taking an art class together.
- Visiting a farmer's market: Can be followed by cooking together with purchased ingredients.