A Modern Romance: Shifting Focus, Finding Love

In her early 30s, the author shifted her dating focus from men to women in Brisbane. She sought specific qualities in a partner beyond superficial traits, prioritizing finding someone principled, kind, and smart, specifically looking for 'kind eyes'.

The Initial Connection

She connected with Jessie, a bookshop employee, whose profile suggested a decent person. The author's initial message, expressing admiration for Jessie's character, led to a gracious but reserved reply. Understanding Jessie's shy nature, the author shared her phone number, and a slow, calm conversation eventually developed.

An Old-Fashioned Courtship Begins

Their first meeting occurred in a park, where Jessie brought homemade tofu stir-fry. The author found Jessie's energy calming and her personality sharp and sweet.

This encounter initiated an 'old-fashioned courtship' involving voice notes, photos, flowers, postcards, and poems.

Both women appreciated these romantic gestures and felt a strong connection.

Love's Revelation

During Halloween, observing Jessie's joy in dressing up for her bookshop job and her delightful interactions with children, the author realized she was deeply in love. She began writing daily 'secret letters' in her diary, detailing reasons for her affection. A few weeks later, these feelings were spontaneously expressed, and Jessie reciprocated.

Understated Acts of Decency

The author continued to compile observations of Jessie's character, noting her quiet acts of generosity.

Jessie matched with someone at a speed-dating event not for romance, but to offer friendship.

She consistently left the last bite of shared food, a small but meaningful gesture.

These understated acts of decency further solidified the author's love.

A Dossier of Love and Lasting Connection

By Christmas, the author presented Jessie with an extensive 'dossier' detailing all the reasons she loved her, which Jessie received with emotion. Nearly 18 months later, their relationship continues to flourish, with the author feeling secure in their love, and the small gestures from Jessie retaining significant meaning.